Health 2021

Hey Real People,

I hope you are really doing great, not just mentally but also health wise.

You see, for the past couple of days, i have been making attempts to take care of my health in the best possible way, simply because i do not just want to be wished a long life on birthdays, i want to practice the act of ensuring i really do live long.

Growing up, i learnt to develop the “I’ll be fine” mindset, not just in terms of achieving goals but also with my health. It’s funny how no matter the gravity of pain i feel, no one will ever know about it cos i just never talk. And even when i do, i make it sound like it’s not that much of a big deal so I’m not taken seriously.

So you see, in this year 2021, I’m really making a conscious effort to fix all my health issues cos they’re quite a big deal no matter how much i try to downplay it. I’m making sure i use my drugs, really try to eat well and most importantly, have enough rest which seems to be my biggest struggle right now.

I do this simply because i want to age gracefully without having regrets of me not taking care of myself earlier on. Not just that, i want to look my best way possible in terms of my skin and fitness so don’t even be surprised if you see pictures of me hitting the gym and trying to take care of my body.

I really think it is our responsibility to take care of the body which serves as a carrier for our soul. I hope you really take your health seriously even though needles are freaking painful and hospitals smell like shit.

Health is wealth! Get that skin and body banging!!

PS: I know I promised to write you everyday but I’ve had so much to take care of in these past few days (getting tested with needles are no way fun to be honest 😏)

And yes!! My very good friend Folu, just gave birth to her second child and he’s a boyyyyyyy. Trust me to be the omugwo woman na as per god mother. I’m sooooo freaking happy to have another baby to take care of in my life but mehn the whole process of child labour isn’t easy!

I’m feeding your eyes with this gorgeous video as my way of saying bye, see you soon.

Are You Toxic?

Are you toxic? Do you think you’re in any way toxic to not only yourself but people around you? If your answer is yes, then it means you are already making plans to eliminate this toxicity. But if your answer is no, then it’s either true or you do not know yet.


In this post, I am going to share how I stopped being friends with someone who was toxic to my mental health and how I made him realise he was not just toxic to me but some other people also. You see, we can’t see what we do until we look into the mirror, someone imitates our actions back at us or someone really sits us down to make us understand that our actions sometimes can be detrimental to people’s health.


I once had a friend, let’s call him Cain. Cain had been my really good friend for years, or so I thought, until I made the mental exercise I suggested in previous posts “support system” (check that out if you haven’t already). I got to realise that Cain had never for once being my friend but I have always been there for him every step of the way. Now, being there for a friend is quite a normal thing until I noticed that the only time Cain calls, is when he’s going through a lot be it emotionally, financially or mentally.

Cain only remembered Solape only when he had problems, not when he was happy or things were working out for him. And you know what they say about energy transfer? Well, it is a situation where by someone else’s energy robs off on you. This sad energy Cain always brought to our conversations, always had a way of weighing me down but since I get over things quite easily, I always tend to brush it off the next minute. But this was a constant practice by Cain each and every time and even though I knew it was wrong, I still held on to him for not months but years.


Then just last year, I was talking to another friend and the conversation of people calling only when they need help popped up. It was in this conversation that I mentioned my situation of Cain with this friend. Right there and then, I knew it had to stop so I decided that I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt one more time. And then guess what? He failed.


Let me quickly mention something before I go on. I personally am not the kind of person that shares my problem with people, I need to feel comfortable in sharing what is going on with me because I so much believe that if it is not a financial problem, no one can help you fix your own problems. I decided for the first time in my life to actually share one of my problems with Cain in which his response was that I was going to be fine, which is something I say all the time.


So, when Cain called again, it was because he needed my help a-gain. I expected this to happen but at the same time this call happened six weeks after I had shared a problem with him. He didn’t even dim it fit to call all through the six weeks or even when he made the last phone call to me just because he needed my help. I didn’t promise to help him with what he needed but he knew for sure that I would always help so after that conversation, I requested for his other numbers and I blocked him on all platforms so he won.t be able to contact me.


Cain found out a month later that I had blocked him so he reached out with a friend’s number. I then told him how much of a toxic person he has been to me in all our years of friendship and how I’ve been the one who has been a friend to him and not the other way round. To sum it up, it was a back and forth conversation and we said a lot to each other. At a point he asked for a way forward and I had to bluntly tell him that If I saw a way forward, I would have spoken to him like adults and because I do not, I simply blocked him. We wished each other the best and that was the end of our friendship.


There are a lot of excesses we tolerated from each other throughout the years of our friendship but I couldn’t take it any longer. I had to make him realise that he was not only toxic to me but my other friends as well.


There are several ways one can be toxic to the other person and you might not know it until someone points it out. But if there is something I would like you to take home from all these, it is that you should eliminate toxic people from your life like a plague no matter how long that friendship has been, if you truly want to have a sane mind and be at peace with yourself. I made my decision last year and I’m glad I did cos I really needed the fresh start. In case you’re wondering, I won’t miss the friendship either cos like I said, I get over things and people easily.


As you make the conscious effort to not be toxic to your fellow humans, I sincerely wish you all the best. I am @therealsoape as always on shollylive.wordpress.com

How Are You?

how are you doing?

How exactly do you feel, be it physically, emotionally or even mentally? I ask this question because I care so much about you and the world and I, need you to be in the best possible state you can be. So how exactly do you feel today?


You see, I don’t know if you know but as far as I’m concerned you are very important to the existence of the human race. So, if you are feeling tired, confused, scared, overwhelmed or are overthinking, I want you to know today that in the end, you’re going to be fine and until you’re fine, it’s not the end yet.


I encourage you to always develop the “I’ll be fine” mindset. Try to believe in all pride and faith that you are always going to be fine cos as they say, problem no dey finish for this life. We will always overcome or conquer whatever battle we are faced with and that’s for sure, simply because as the saying goes, when there really is life, there is always hope.


I understand that this is a new year and you perhaps want it to really go as planned or even better than planned because you have goals to reach and you really want to make it in life. I also know that if you don’t do the work, nobody is going to do it for you and that can really be overwhelming. Or maybe you don’t even have plans for this year cos you’re not sure if it is going to be another 2020, even if you hope not. Whatever the case maybe, all I know is that you’re going to be fine and you will achieve everything you set your mind to do, provided you do the work.


You see a lot of times, we get overwhelmed by what has happened, what is happening or what will even happen. We get anxious almost every single time but I’m saying to you today that it is ok, because I am there and I still feel this way from time to time but as I’ve been clamoring since the beginning of this year, let’s take it one day at a time. If we are to face the day as it comes, I believe we will be able to conquer whatever life throws in our faces.


Quick story,


I know I have to write every day and do voice overs which is work to be honest because I have never tried to be consistently productive every day of my life (I’m not that efficient). I remember telling a friend that I don’t know what made me decide to start creating content everyday cos the over thinker in me will never make such decision.

Today makes it a week since I’ve been creating content consistently but I want you to know that I have been really tired and have wanted to give up. But, I have a support system that keeps reminding me to take it one step at a time. Dreams require goals and carrying these out, is usually not easy. It requires not only passion but discipline. Once we can discipline ourselves and train our mind to do the job no matter what, it might perhaps get easier.


But no matter what happens, whatever turn you need to take, whatever responsibility you’re saddled with, please take out time to rest and refresh your mind. I believe that one day, we will surpass the height we have always dreamed of.


I hope I have earned the privilege of your time, thank you so much for stopping by. I remain therealsolape on shollylive.wordpress.com

PS: always remember that we always need a shoulder to lean on when the going gets tough but if you do not have a shoulder to lean on or if you ever and I mean ever need someone to talk to, please drop a hi in my dm, I promise you I’m not only a great listener but I make no judgement whatsoever so please feel free to stop by.

Are You a Professional?

Are you a professional? Do you think you’re so good at what you do? Do you think you have all it takes, the experience and expertise needed to get your work done effectively and more efficiently?


Ok, do you think what you do is so unique that you deserve not only all the accolades but anything and everything pertaining to your field of work? What I’m really asking is this, do you think so highly of yourself that you can do things in a manner in which others won’t be able to do? Well, if your answer is yes, I would like you to please respect yourself and come off your high horse.


You know why? Well, let me gist you a little bit.


So, depending on when you first came across my voice or posts that are similar to this, you will know for sure that I only recently started doing voice overs on my new Instagram page @therealsolape. I knew I could at least try, so I did it without overthinking which is the motto for this year. I remember telling a friend that my voice must make me money this year but that is by the way. But then I knew I was no way close to being a professional yet so I summoned people in this niche and those who know a thing or two about voice overs to please correct me and point out what needed to be improved. They did so and even though it was hard, I took to the correction and made a few changes where necessary which they were impressed by, by the way.


Stay with me, I’m going somewhere.


A friend of mine decided to share the link of one of my previous write ups in the blog to his twitter page so I was more or less encouraged to visit twitter since dust had already gathered on the page. I then came across a young man’s first voice over of the year by the handle @Oyexbaba and believe me, I almost opened my mouth for flies to catch up. I was beyond wowed. This young man was indeed a professional and so, me standing next to him is like a novice taking a picture with a professional camera (what do I know I am doing?) Naah real fam, the voice is what we term lit. It made me develop goose bumps and made me realise first hand that there are different levels to this voice over thing.


Ladies and gentlemen, all I’m trying to say is that if you think you’re all that, trust me, you haven’t met someone better. I shared the link of this deep and sexy, captivating voice-to-the-ears young man’s twitter handle to a friend who also gets compliments on his voice and he was wowed to the bones.


There are different levels and we can only unlock the good of the land if we continue to seek it through constant practice. They say Rome was not built in a day but if you don’t even know where Rome is, that’s fine. Try to understand that a child does not start walking immediately he is born, it takes him trying to roll his body from point to another, before crawling and then garnering enough muscle to take his first few steps.


I guess what I’m trying to say with this post is that you should keep working on yourself and your passion cos you can never stop learning and there is always room for improvement.


Thank you so much for stopping by, I hope you have been motivated in one way or the other to improve your craft, I am therealsolape on shollylive.wordpress.com see you tomorrow.

PS: majority of what I post on here is also a gentle reminder for those times I want or am thinking of running away from it all.

Who is Your Suppport System?

Who is your support system? Who are those you can boldly beat your chest to say would support you any day, anytime, no questions asked, none answered. Do you even know those who will go all out to make sure that your dreams actually come to manifestation? Or perhaps those who will hold you accountable to your supposed plans towards achieving those goals you’ve set out for yourself in this year 2021?


I ask again, who is your support system?


I ask this because majority of the time, we tend to deceive ourselves on the people we refer to as true friends and other times we try to create excuses for these so called friends when it comes to them supporting our dreams and aspirations.


Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying it is the one hundred percent responsibility of your friend to help you achieve your dreams, I’m just saying it is only logical for them to be a contributing factor to your success because then what is a friend if they cannot support your dreams and help you win in the niche you have chosen for yourself? What is a friend who only cares about frivolities and not how you and them are going to smash every goal and make it in life? Do you even have such friends or do you just have gist or gossip partners?


A support system is a network or category of people or friends who are there to not only offer you mental, emotional and practical support but also help you professionally. They are the ones who you can fall back on for support when the chips are down or when you need someone to encourage you. Because let’s face it, the road to success is easier when you have people who will always be there to cheer you on simply because it is a lonely pursuit that requires your one hundred percent attention and ability.


Your support system is not to help you achieve your dreams because that is your own responsibility to yourself. If you are not ready for the tedious process of success, do not expect your support system to do the work for you.


To wrap this up, I would like you to perform an exercise in regards to the people you call friends because trust me, it might sound cruel but if you really want to have a team that wins together, you won’t hesitate to do it.


Here it is,


Write down a list of all your friends and put down what you gain from each friendship, as well as what you give in the friendship simply because any relationship you get into should honestly be give and take. I didn’t just mention take, I said give also.


Now, after you’ve done that, make a list of those who you know will support you or are already supporting you on matters that concern you. Once you’ve done that, I would like you to put these people who are your support system in a mental box and focus on them one hundred percent. While the others who aren’t, you know where to place them. But remember, to each man his value, everyone has something to offer. The fact that they’re not of value to you right now, doesn’t mean they aren’t to others cos in the end, preference and connection is what matters.


I admonish you to identify your support system today, if you haven’t already. And if you have, I hope you’re all smashing those goals together. One love people, I remain therealsolape on shollylive.wordpress.com

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